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Identity refers to the set of traits and characteristics that distinguishes one or a group of people from others. These characteristics make them unique. Identity shapes and determines people's tastes, needs, priorities, and actions. Throughout our lives, identity can vary, depending on experiences and even age. From these variables emerge the types of identity that reflect how we see ourselves and how others see us. Sometimes they are obvious and clear features. Thus, we have personal, racial, cultural, gender, political, religious identities, just to name a few. Personal identity is strongly linked to culture, nationality, education and family. Many of us identify as Hispanic or Latino and not by race. Both words are intimately linked to language and geography. Also, to the offspring. In such a way that there can be Latinos or Hispanics, whites, blacks and mostly mestizos. We are the product of an exquisite mix of races, nationalities and languages. From September 15 to October 15, Hispanic Heritage Month is celebrated in the United States. Although the holiday began in 1968 as Hispanic Heritage Week, it was enacted into law and extended to one month in 1988 by President Ronald Reagan to highlight and recognize the contributions that the Latino and Hispanic community have given to the country. I have had the honor of co-producing a special program in English for Spectrum News to spread the word about the celebration in upstate New York. I've written three great pieces for this show. And, I say great, because the contribution of the Hispanic and Latino community is indisputable and remarkable. And it is that when we speak of Hispanics or Latinos in the United States, we refer to the almost 60 million people who identify themselves as such, whose roots are "of Cuban, Mexican, Puerto Rican, South American or Central American or other Spanish culture, regardless of its race". Analysts agree that Hispanic immigrants have unquestionably contributed to the development of the country that welcomed us. Without ignoring the contribution of other cultures, the current culture of the United States cannot be understood today without considering the multifaceted contribution of Latino-Hispanic-American immigrants. In the United States we eat tacos from Mexico, pupusas from El Salvador, gallo pinto from Costa Rica, arepas from Venezuela and empanadas from Colombia. We had sangria from Spain and mate from Argentina. We dance to the rhythm of Puerto Rican merengue, Dominican bachata and Cuban salsa. Not only that, but we read Cervantes, Pablo Neruda and Isabel Allende. We enjoy the Colombian art of Botero and the exotic paintings of the Mexican Frida Kahlo. In Hollywood, we enjoy cinema with the Venezuelan Edgar Ramírez, Guillermo del Toro, Salma Hayek, Ramón Estévez, Antonio Banderas, Andy García, Eva Méndez and Charlie Sheen. And in music, JLo, Marc Anthony, Ricky Martin, Shakira, Daddy Yankee, Selena Gómez, Christina Aguilera. Although some were born in the United States, they are of Hispanic or Latino origin and have embraced their identity. 41 Latinos make up the United States Congress, and we have Sonia Sotomayor as the first Hispanic judge to hold a position on the Supreme Court. The Venezuelan Carolina Herrera on the catwalks of the world and Ellen Ochoa, of Mexican descent, as the first Hispanic woman to travel to space. Puerto Rican Roberto Clemente was the first Latino to reach the Major League Baseball Hall of Fame. And in this line, currently 275 players born outside the United States are in line for the hall of fame, 99 from the Dominican Republic, 70 Venezuelans and 23 Cubans, followed by Puerto Ricans, Mexicans and Colombians. As they say in my country, a piece of fluff, pure Latinos! According to the Latino Donor Collaborative report carried out in association with Wells Fargo and published by Diario La Opinion, “the Latino contribution in 2020 was equivalent to 16.6% of the country's total activity in finance, insurance and real estate; 13% from professional services; 13.3% in government services and 8.4% in education, health care and social assistance.” The knowledge and acceptance of their own cultural identity constitutes an important legacy that migrants carry with them and contribute to the society that receives them. And as I said at the beginning, identity is fluid and changes, but maintaining belonging to a territory, even if it transcends borders and language, stimulates the development of kinship, the creation of relationships or social bonds and is a determining factor in the preservation of the history of the communities, their traditions, values, beliefs, cults, among other values. In other words, it makes no sense to deny cultural identity and on the contrary, to embrace it is our duty not only to protect it, but to understand it in our daily lives, transmit it and be happy, recognizing who we are, where we come from and that we are capable of leaving a valuable and positive cultural historical legacy for generations to come. UNESCO is clear when it states three pillars of cultural identity: No two cultures are identical All peoples have their own culture and cultural identity There are no higher and lower cultures, just different ones. So wherever you are, start today by embracing your cultural identity, knowing that you are leaving a mark with every step you take, every word you say, and every decision you make! Let us ensure that the stamp of each footprint is positive, human, cheerful and above all exemplary.

When I began my studies in journalism, the Psychology of Communication professor, Amalia Carroz, developed a topic in which she dealt with 'empathy' in detail. Her analysis and educational didactics allowed me to root the concept in such a way that in this episode, I want to talk about this transcendental communication skill and social ability, which is also an important part of emotional intelligence. Putting yourself in the shoes of others, understanding their needs, feelings and problems, that is empathy. Easily said for some, but for others, not so much. Empathy starts from recognizing that each person is, in himself, a story. Understanding that, each personal story is written according to the factors that influence them through life. Empathy is learned. It grows as we get to know ourselves and our emotions, our inner self. It is very well-known that, one cannot give what one do not have! In other episodes, I have mentioned how valuable it is not to judge others according to our ideas, perspectives or beliefs. Judging others implies, we believe that only our point of view is correct. We measure others according to our own measuring system of what is correct versus what is not. The point is that, each person has their own standards and systems to measure right or wrong, to live, to act. And, they are determined by factors or circumstances that influence them through life. Biological factors with which we are born; life experiences; family history and cultural characteristics such as nationality and race make us unique and define who we are, how we behave, our decisions and our path. Our place is to understand that no one has walked our footsteps and that we have not walked their footsteps either, therefore, our experiences, feelings and points of view will be very different. To respect and understand those differences is to be empathetic. In the episode, 'The Value of Diversity', I say diversity reflects multiplicity. It should unite, not separate. As we value it, we gain personal growth, information and experience. Thus, in communication por example, empathy leads to a synchrony between the one who speaks and the one who listens and in which both feed off each other and grow in many different ways, in perception of the other, in understanding, intellectually. Communication and interpersonal relationships are very complex because they encompass feelings, thoughts, ideas and attitudes. And, communication is not only verbal, but it is also corporal. So, as you are talking with your voice, you are also speaking with your face, hands, eyes. All your body is sending the message. Your place as a listener is to get those signals, understand them, and respond. The way you respond is up to you. Empathy is crucial for assertive communication. Again, empathy helps us to listen to the other and to respect different thinking. Accepting what the other thinks and feels, recognizing that every experience is valuable and that they are opportunities for personal and intellectual growth and rapprochement with the other. The truth being said is that empathy and assertive communication go hand in hand. It is listening and understanding. Not only listening, not only speaking. Communication needs a meaning, a reason why. Otherwise, it's only noise, sounds, letters in the wind. Active listening allows us not only to understand the message of the speaker, but to also put ourselves in the other's place with an attitude, free of prejudice. The one who speaks tries to make the other person, from who he is, understand. Empathy allows us to know and understand our interlocutor from what the other person is. As an empathic person, knows himself and recognizes his weaknesses, he communicates from himself, but with the shoes of his interlocutor. He is tolerant, does not criticize or judge. Actively listening with the ability to put himself in another's shoes. He advises and recommends if requested, and does it so with humility. Understanding that each person is and thinks differently. Puerto Rican psychologist Veroshk Williams says that, to communicate with empathy it is necessary to forget who is right with the idea that it is not a matter of being right or wrong, avoiding confrontation, how? Accepting to disagree. In such a way, in this globalized world in which we live thanks to the internet and its multiplicity of platforms, it is increasingly imperative to develop empathy and perfect it, as well as learning to communicate assertively. To develop empathy, we must start by understanding ourselves. Then listening to others, understanding them and conveying our support. Do not judge others and on the contrary, be understanding and respectful. Agree to disagree. WE would never know what others have been through.

Every relationship goes through several stages. Some experts divide them into six, and I have summarized them into three: change, growth, and learning. Let's discuss these three words. Something that all human beings have in common is that we live in constant change. We change our hair, we change our clothes, our style, our school, our work, our home. We grow old... Once you begin your relationship, the "change" is imminent, because immediately your whole life is transformed. Let's see this stage as an adaptation process. It will depend on each individual how to face those changes or that transition in the best way so that the relationship lasts in the future. Communicating and negotiating are essential. Understanding that we all have a past is elementary. Do not get complicated by nonsense or argue over simple things. Life is too short to waste it on pointless arguments. The Cuban singer Celia Cruz says it very clearly: “life is a carnival, and it is more beautiful to live singing”. The commitment, the honeymoon of courtship, and the first years will bring changes. These are periods that you have to embrace and enjoy. Especially the first year in which everything seems perfect, but in it you also discover things, manners, and aspects of your partner that you did not know. Relationships grow, that is, they mature, and there is a greater knowledge of the couple. Perhaps the disagreements are more frequent or less, a product of the maturity acquired in the first stage of change and adaptation. In this phase, the couple stabilizes. Love is no longer the product of a feeling but of reason. The will plays an important role in binomial commitment-understanding. Then, if the relationship matures, come the children and their facets: baby, adolescence, university, and adulthood. In the midst of all this, you continue to change, grow, mature, and with you your partner and in short your relationship or marriage. All changes will bring learning. You learn from failures and successes. Of joy and sadness. Every moment of your life and your marriage and every step in the life of your children, if any, will teach you unforgettable lessons that can serve as a reference for other couples or even your own children. I see the learning stage as a combination of the previous two and one that never ends. It is a period of reflection, so it is valuable for the couple to have the best lines of communication open, and healthy so that it does not become a threat to the stability of the couple. How to avoid routine and boredom Routine is very common in many marriages or relationships. It is a kind of numbing of the marital relationship. The daily hustle and bustle, the stress, and the social commitments make many people fall into a routine of life. However, it is very damaging to the relationship. To avoid falling into a routine, the couple must be very creative, rediscovering each other every day and reconnecting again on a daily basis. Let's see what we can do: Share A good conversation with your partner about what you think and feel to learn more and grow in love. Talking about the day at work, shopping for groceries together, watching a movie, eating ice cream or taking a walk outside are situations that allow you to be next to your partner, sharing and talking. Seeking moments alone is also very important, especially to refresh your relationship in privacy. Look after Remember this: you reap what you sow. If you sow thorns, you will not expect to reap flowers. And, every plant needs daily care. If you don't take care of it, it will wither and die. Think, how do you take care of the person next to you? And, how do you take care of yourself for the person who shares your life? Prioritize Your partner always goes first. Show Lots of details, and they don't have to be very thoughtful or elaborate. Creativity and spontaneity give vitality to the relationship and strengthen it. Spontaneity is contrary to routine, so leaving room for improvisation gives freedom for things to happen naturally. You can listen to or read My Tips for a Happy Marriage to learn more about this topic. Routine is a silent enemy, it makes no noise. We get used to it to a point that we don't realize it until it's too late.

Maybe you relate to this situation: A friend asks if you can take him home. Despite the fact that you are doing terrible because he lives contrary to your route, you say yes because you do not want him to be angry with you. Or, you think you deserve a better work schedule, but you don't discuss it with your supervisor or human resources, because you think it might cause problems. Well, in either of those two situations, you should have said what you thought. Many of us passively accept situations and, like a glass that receives drops of water and fills little by little until it overflows, we see how we lose respect for ourselves until, like the glass, we reach a point of no return, and we explode with rage. Then come the consequences. This statement sounds contradictory coming from a journalist. We are supposed to be communication experts. You would think that in my case, it should be a piece of cake to be assertive. The reality is it is not. Assertiveness is a social skill and a communication skill that allows us to express our emotions and thoughts honestly without aggressiveness or passivity, respecting others but above all respecting yourself and your needs. The assertive person expresses himself freely and does not try to "win" an argument. It seeks to open a channel of communication and listening. Güell and Muñoz comment in the book 'Unknown yourself' that assertive behavior protects against manipulation attempts, in which a person is pressured to have behaviors that they do not want to perform; Therefore, assertiveness favors interpersonal relationships, promotes self-esteem and emotional self-control. In assertiveness, you say what you think, and the good news is that you can learn it. Taking small steps, in simple situations with trusted people. Little by little you will trust your ability to say what you think with total clarity, emotional peace and in a climate of respect. Saying NO when you should say no, while being considerate, in a simple and direct way because there is no need to give many explanations. Don't apologize for saying what you want, feel, or think, either. Say it and wait for an answer. Being assertive is communicating. Speak in the first person. Instead of saying: Don't do it that way!; you are always late; I can't do this; I will never get that job, so I will not apply. Say: Let's do it this way; try to be on time; I will do my best; I will apply to that job, I have to try. Remember that communication is a trio, verbal, body and intonation. Take care of all three. Speak clearly and loudly without justifying or explaining your opinion, since this is one of the characteristics of non-assertive people because they seek to please and therefore feel compelled to explain. At first, it will not be very easy, but to achieve objectives and goals it is necessary to be patiently stubborn, that is to say persistent. There will always be situations in which communication will stop being assertive to be passive or aggressive to achieve goals. Assertiveness feeds self-confidence, thus improving self-esteem. It optimizes the control of your life and your emotions, and substantially improves relationships with others and is closely related to empathy. In assertiveness, the words that are pronounced are defended, and in empathy, the words that others pronounce are understood.

Oh, home sweet home! I recently read that this is a poet's sentence that culminates, because there the heart can rest...! I strongly identify with this expression, because as the end of my working day approaches, I only think that I have to drive 40 minutes but that When I return home, my husband and my cats are waiting for me and my bed is also tidied up waiting for me to rest. On the contrary, when for reasons of time, I cannot make my bed… when that blessed moment of returning arrives, I remember, oh no, my bed is unmade and that peace that usually gives me knowing that my bed is fixed, changes immediately... With the distances and the little time I have to enjoy my family and my home, I have learned to value the organization of my life, my portfolio, my home and my desk. My children and husband enjoy a world with my organization systems. I have a system that I apply in all areas of my life. Edit, categorize and contain. Editing is the hardest part of the organizing process. It is the moment when I decide who is leaving and who is staying. If I'm organizing the kitchen, I start with the food. I check the expiration date, and the general condition of the product. This helps me define whether to throw away, stay or donate. Then I categorize. Canned food goes in one place, condiments in another, and many foods I take out of their boxes and bags and store in a clear container with a label. This helps me save time and space. This system works very well for me. For example, if my children come to visit me and want something, they find it easily. Bright and cheerful home. I do the same with my wallet. I edit weekly. Everything is separated and contained in small bags inside my bag. I use all the pockets I have because our bags usually hold a world of things. That doesn't mean they can't be organized. It is very inconvenient to need the credit card and not find it because instead of putting it in the wallet, I threw it in the middle of the comb, the book, the wallet, the sunglasses, a handkerchief, the baby's spoon, a bottle of water and the coffee cup. What's my turn, take everything out to get to the credit card. Trust me, I've seen this. As for my house, I try to edit frequently. Everything has its place in categories, and everything is contained in closets and boxes or baskets. I'm a little melancholy with things my dad left behind and with the gifts my children give me. I try to honor my dad by exhibiting his most precious things in perfect order and cleanliness. I can't find a better way. I use everything else. As for my children's gifts… Well, I use them and when they're too ugly, I throw the packaging away. Hahaha… I confess that it is an area of ​​my life in which I am working. Based on my personal experience, I can tell you that good organization alleviates frustrations, frees us from stress, and calms our embarrassment when unexpected visitors arrive. It guarantees a state of well-being and harmony. An organized home stabilizes the life of the people who live in it and if there are little ones, they grow up with good habits. It encourages creativity, improves mood, favors rest, reinforces concentration... No one said this is easy. Less if there are small children. I remember that when my children were little, I wanted them to play and organize everything on the shelves just as it was. That is simply impossible. After much stress and scolding. I decided that the easiest thing for everyone was to contain rather than exhibit. I bought a wooden chest and put all the toys in there. A few were left out. The children played, messed up and then dumped the entire trunk. It was never easy but over time they began to do it. In short, it can be easier if we plan the housework by assigning tasks. I have already mentioned this before. We all live at home, and we all enjoy it, therefore, we must all collaborate, each with their abilities, skills, age and time and gradually following habits. We can start by cleaning by area: the bedrooms, the kitchen, the bathrooms, the living room. Then we can delve deeper into each area by editing, categorizing and containing. Once we achieve organization, we have to maintain that order with daily routines: Put things away when you get home (coat, bag, shoes, clothes, etc.) Have a place for everything. Make the bed when you get up. Have a basket for dirty clothes in each room. Hang the clothes or put them in the basket immediately when you stop using them. Assign laundry days. Clear the table and wash the dishes right after eating. Plan cleaning according to the family's lifestyle. Take advantage when there are fewer people, for example. Order for 20 minutes every day. Take out the garbage on the corresponding day. Always keep in mind that what makes a home are the people in it and not the things. If the organization can make the home a place where the family feels more comfortable, happy, it is certainly a worthwhile task. So home organization is important, not just for cleanliness and tidy rooms, but also for smiles and inner satisfaction. This is what it makes a "home sweet home" where the heart can truly rest. And, at the end, it will be a bright and cheerful home!

Digital Nomads are people who work from home or from anywhere on the planet using an Internet connection and an electronic device. It is a very interesting trend, made even more popular after the COVID-19 pandemic, and it is becoming a lifestyle. Honestly, I can say that if there is something good after the pandemic, it is the possibility of working from home... In this episode, we are talking about the benefits of being a digital nomad, with Xiomara Maldonado from Chicago. An article published by the New York Times in 2017 says that in a survey of more than 15,000 employees, 43% of them spent at least some time working remotely. Employees are pressuring companies to see the practice as beneficial. ​ In the aftermath of the COVID pandemic, a survey conducted by Statista and published by LinkedIn found that 80% of workers globally would prefer to continue with this approach, at least for some time. . The study also revealed five trends, one of which is having a hybrid approach – a mix of remote and in-office work – this provides a balance for both staff and leadership teams. Xiomara Maldonado, university professor and digital nomad, tells us that she has worked and carried out tasks in a hybrid way since 1992, supported by the technologies available at all times, that is why she considers herself a "digital nomad by vocation" ​ For many people, working from home represents an isolation that they do not like to submit to due to the lack of socialization. They feel lonely, depressed and in a rut. However, Maldonado that the isolation produced by COVID in 2021 accelerated this trend that she was already experiencing and believes that the workplace is not the only space to socialize and that on the contrary we drink "value the family space, the community of neighbors and friends to share moments, parties and meetings in person". ​ The pandemic also revealed that both employees and employers have the ability to perform their jobs remotely, to the point that consensus has been reached on the work, personal, psychological and economic benefits of working as a digital nomad. Flexibility, travel time and fuel savings are just some of them. With remote work or as a digital nomad, the work or business modality is broader. To know if you can be a digital nomad, you must observe the skills, abilities, knowledge, abilities and personal possibilities. Then do a market study, reviewing the labor supply and demand and comparing them with our resume The most common remote jobs are: programmer, web designer, copywriter, proofreader, video editor, translator, photographer, interior designer, cartoonist, graphic designer. The business options are also wide: online sales, real estate, among other business ideas. ​ How to become a digital nomad? ​ To be a digital nomad, it is essential to have a good understanding of the new information and communication technologies, which are nothing more than the new media that, in recent years, have facilitated the flow of information, the Internet, computers, tablets, cell phones, and which are revolutionizing our lives, our way of communicating and relating, learning, entertaining and working. As in any professional career, training and learning are essential. Being a digital nomad especially requires unlearning everything that has traditionally been learned about performing a job in the workplace. Xiomara Maldonado says that there are free and paid options available online for training. Her Instagram Ser Nómada Digital offers tools to learn about remote job options and means of training... The digital nomad does not need an office or a fixed desk to carry out his role. Neither of a fixed address, but you do need discipline and organization. Establishing work schedules is important to achieve a balance between work and home. Making it clear to the family that being at home does not mean being 100% available to them is elementary. Maldonado says that "the concept of obligation is replaced by responsibility" and that the greatest advantage of being a digital nomad is the possibility of "adapting work to our lives and not our lives to work." ​ Are you ready to become a digital nomad?

A recent study conducted at Kansas State University showed that although teasing is not done with the intention of harming, it is received as something negative and consequently generates destructive or harmful effects on the person being teased. The context and personal background also play a very important role in the damage or not that a teasing can cause. However, teasing is not an exclusive issue for children or young people. It also occurs between adults, between spouses, siblings and relatives. We have heard a lot about bullying and the unfortunate consequences that this brings, especially to school-age children. A recent study conducted at Kansas State University showed that although teasing is not done with the intention of harming, it is received as something negative and consequently generates destructive or harmful effects on the person being teased. The context and personal background also play a very important role in the damage or not that a teasing can cause. However, teasing is not an exclusive issue for children or young people. It also occurs between adults, between spouses, siblings and relatives. The one who mocks, tries to ridicule the other with words or gestures. He laughs at what he says or does and generally looks for accomplices, other people who follow him in his eagerness to joke at the expense of another without taking into account how his joke is harming his victim or not. They use the different appearance, the way they dress or walk, some physical or mental disability, to humiliate, embarrass or ridicule another. Usually, teasing is an act of cowardice and a display of poor wit because frequently the teaser is a person who has been mistreated, lacks things and uses resentment and hatred. They are conceited, hateful, make themselves look like the smartest and take pleasure in marking their territory at the point of humiliating others. The mocked, and humiliated, is the victim of the joke. Complex feelings drown his mind and he feels hurt, disrespected, worthless because the teasing is a direct and personal attack on his self-esteem. If he is a boy. In the same way as his aggressor, he keeps that grudge and in the future he will do the same. This is emotional abuse, and it happens not only in schools but also in the workplace, and the damage can be so severe that many end in suicide. What can we do? Foremost, if you or someone you know is experiencing bullying or emotional abuse, report the situation and seek professional help. Coach Ana Escamilla writes on her website "you have to be very clear that the problem is not with the person who is the victim of a joke but with the person who makes the joke" and adds: Because they project all their frustration and/or resentment in what they see. Because that way they can feel superior. (Deep down they know they are inferior) To be funny and/or attract attention. Additionally • Avoid the person making fun. • Ignore her as much as possible. • Use humor. • Confront the person with an assertive conversation, explain what you don't like, seek agreements and peace. Try to put him in your place. • Do not be a victim, it is your decision. Don't give power to their words and their gestures. • Work on your self-esteem, remember how much you are worth. • Document offenses and talk to someone. • Seek help. As the 20th century writer Milan Kundera said, "Mockery is the rust that corrodes everything it touches." Mockery as a harmful action, which threatens something or someone. But he who makes fun of another will also be affected by it, just as rust expands and corrodes, affecting everything it touches. So no one should make fun of another so no one gets hurt.

A couple with poor communication and keeping secrets becomes more vulnerable, insecure, and distrustful of everything. In fact, a crisis in a relationship can start from a lack of communication. In the United States, lack of communication is the most common cause of divorce and the problem most addressed by marriage counselors. Relationships are complicated. The relationship changes and grows. The couple learns. One of the things I've learned is that a relationship is built through sincerity, communication, commitment, trust, and security and that there are details that can gradually destroy it. True intimacy in a relationship or marriage depends on good communication between the two. When the couple does not communicate, they move further and further away from each other. In fact, a crisis in a relationship can originate from a lack of communication. In the United States, lack of communication is the most common cause of divorce and the problem most addressed by marriage counselors. When a relationship is sincere and communicative, it is built on concrete, it is solid. The difficult moments will come, but they will stay because both of you have developed the ability to resolve conflicts as a team. However, when there is a secret between you and me, you step on mud and instability. Eventually, miscommunication and dishonesty will affect all areas of the relationship and each other's lives, including negatively impacting intimacy. Because what is hidden, in this case, the secret, generates a strong emotional pressure on the person who keeps it. And a great mistrust of those who suspect it. With poor communication and also keeping secrets, the couple becomes more vulnerable, insecure, and suspicious of everything. This is how the uncomfortable questions begin, the intriguing calls, the cell phone review, the security keys in everything, the persecution, the review of the accounts, the pockets, the wallets, etc... If you don't want that to happen, don't give up … Be transparent in everything, about your past and your present… We may think that a secret does no harm, but it is a form of deception. Secrets do not make us stronger, on the contrary, they weaken our relationships and are just as dangerous as lies. Sooner or later they will come to light. Suppose that secrets are like a time bomb that will explode at any moment. You have to communicate, but you have to know how to listen and understand. The couple will never know each other well if they do not listen and understand each other and if they do not care enough about each other to take the time to listen and understand each other. They even run the risk of having their partner's feelings stolen by someone else if they take the time to listen and understand. Communication demands mutual respect that protects the self-esteem and value of our partner, it demands truth and confidence... Relationships fail when trust is "eroded", trust fails if it is not based on truth and the truth must be told in love. How to eliminate the secret between you and me and improve communication To the one who confesses • Say what you keep, believe, or feel clear but always with respect. • Do not assume that your partner knows what is happening, what you feel or keep. • Take responsibility for every word you say. Don't be afraid to apologize. • Make peace a priority. To the one who listens • Ask questions instead of accusations. Select your words. • Avoid generalizations like always or never. For example, You are always late, or you never make the bed. It will be more assertive to say: I have noticed that you have been late, or Lately, you have not made the bed. • Don't frown or roll your eyes. • Don't tease, or encourage. Don't be angry, look for solutions. • Do not close yourself to forgive. • Make peace a priority. Both should talk assertively and use words such as I think, I feel, let's do, I want, what do you think, what do you think, how can we solve this, I would like... These words create a more pleasant and warm climate. Remember that maintaining assertive communication with your partner does not guarantee the absence of discussions and problems, but it does facilitate mutual understanding and respect that will be forged and strengthened little by little.

As I walk my path through life as a Catholic wife and mom, I would like to share my perspective on how we, as parents, should respond to a son or daughter who is coming out as gay and how should we react. In this article, I will not discuss whether homosexuality is a mental disorder or a sin. I am not an expert. I am a mother willing to help you and your family in the process of coming out of your kids. Mom, I am gay! This must be one of the hardest confessions that a child has to ever tell his parents. For them, it has to be like a heavyweight over their shoulders that needs to get down. ​ I know and understand that being in this situation might be a huge struggle for many parents who fear having one of their children admit to having same-sex attraction (SSA). It is not an easy statement to hear nor to realize. So, if it were the case, that one of your children comes out as gay, we, as parents, must embrace the great role that we have in the family and in society. ​ Keep in mind that you are the parent of that child. Be thankful and say: This is my son/daughter and not anyone else’s, making sure that with your care and love his life will be the best you can provide. So, as I walk my path through life as a Catholic wife and mom, I would like to share my perspective on how we, as parents, should respond to a son or daughter who is coming out as gay or a lesbian and how should we react. ​ Listen. Let your kid express all his feelings with an open heart. Do not react with disappointment, aversion, or anger. Show empathy and love. Hug him if you feel it is necessary. Control. Keep calm, take deep breaths, and keep silent. Do not interrupt. Encourage. Once he has opened his heart, let him know that no matter what, you are his mother/father and that you love him. Explain that there is nothing to be ashamed of, and point out that we all have difficulties in life. Suggest. Present different options: for example, going to therapy or counseling. It will help cope with all the emotional distress that coming out to the world brings. It is the ideal support to organize thoughts and feelings. Consider this option not only for your child but for the family. If he does not accept any of the previous suggestions, always reassure him that you love him and that no matter what, you and his family are and will be always there for him. Express. Always tell him that you love him and show your affection to him. Hugs and expressions of affection will always be welcomed. Silence. Do not talk about the subject any longer unless your child wants to talk about it. Pray. You must keep a loving, caring, open relationship with your child after coming out to you. It is hard enough for them to deal with the criticism and looks from strangers, their peers, on the street, at school, in college, mass media to deal with it at home with their own family. Remember, home is the place where you feel safe, and secure. Within the family, you find comfort, happiness, and self-determination. Do not lecture, your words may have no meaning after a while. Do not preach, either. Maybe you want to bring your child closer to God and the church, but you may put in danger your child's faith and cause the opposite reaction. What if my grown-up child brings his partner, what should I do? To me, this is a simple answer. I will treat him with love and respect as if it were a girlfriend to my son or a boyfriend to my daughter. Some parents may say, “I will not receive them at home” I completely disagree with that statement. If you turn away your child’s partner, you are also turning him away. Think of it like if your daughter gets pregnant out of matrimony and decides to live with your grandchild’s father. Will you reject them? I do not think so. Or what would it happen if your child admits he is using drugs? Will you tell him to leave your house? I am sure you will not and quite the opposite, you will offer help and support from professionals. Accepting and welcoming your child’s friends is a big move for you and your family. Your kid will definitely feel loved, supported, and appreciated. If you believe you need to stipulate rules, do it so. There is nothing wrong with home regulations, but make sure to explain the whys. What about the rest of the family members, what should you do? Just as your son confessed his privacy to you, he will do it with the other members of the family if he wants and when he wants to do it. This is a freewill situation. It is not your position to tell. He will decide who requires knowing. And remember, we are not talking about a contagious disease or a virus. There is nothing exceptional that must be told. Happy families love each other, do everything out of love, and accept each other because of love. You never know what you are capable of until you understand the true meaning of “love”, love learned through and within the family. So out of love, everyone will understand and if they don't, stepping in and explaining your position in due course is crucial. Maintaining harmony and family ties in peace contributes to the mental health of all family members, especially your child. Love begins with the spouses and grows in their children. A priest once told me: love your kids more when they don’t do what you expect. Love them with tough love. This means that loving is not contemplating or spoiling, it is quite the opposite. To love is to correct in a timely manner, to talk openly, to listen in detail, to understand ... So, if your child confesses you to be gay, just remember this: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always promise, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

December holidays offer a great opportunity to be grateful for what we have and for what we have done during the year that is ending. For Christians, Advent (four weeks before Christmas) is about preparing the way of the Lord. It is the precise time to prepare the manger, a little and humble spot that his parents prepared for him to be safe and warm. He was surrounded by farm animals, but full of love and determination. He started a way in a manger. For most Christians, these coming holidays are about making time to pray to God, to spend quiet time to have a conversation with him, with our families, and with our friends. For others, this is a good time to listen more and talk less. It is a time to reflect. Once again, it is time to prepare. ​ While in this season, we all should see Jesus’ manger as our life and prepare it to receive the new things that are still to come to our lives and the lives of our loved ones, and to set new goals for the upcoming year. ​ We usually prepare that path at the beginning of the new year or the end of the old year, cleaning up our houses, decorating, and painting. However, while we are looking for the perfect tree or gift, what we need to clean is our hearts, our minds, and our souls and understand what the season is all about. Advent is about preparing. Christmas is about giving. How to get ready to receive the New Year Keeping in mind that perspective, we can always do more and better. We can always be more patient. We can always pay more attention. Likewise, we can listen differently. Besides, we cannot be complacent about what we have done. We can always find new and different ways to accomplish goals and to be successful. Not only that, but we can find more time to share and to love. A good way to get ready for the New year is to set goals. But before that, I will consider self-evaluating and maybe making kind of a SWOT Analysis of us (Strengths – Weaknesses – Opportunities – Threats) considering what we have accomplished and what we want to achieve to set genuine objectives. How to set goals 1. Write and check your goals regularly Make a list of goals writing them out and display them in a place where you can see them regularly, to review your progress. If the goals have to be edited, do it so consistently. ​ 2. Set goals for different areas of your life Not only finances or your health are important. You have to consider all the areas of your life: Relationships, work, spiritual, wellbeing, fitness, finance, vacations, emotions, time management, order, punctuality… 3. Set credible, possible, and measurable goals It would be great to establish huge goals, but it does not make any sense if they are impossible to do. As an alternative to setting a gigantic goal, create smaller ones that can be completed well enough. On the other hand, having measurable goals will help you track if you are achieving your goals. You can measure them by quantity and period. For example: running 30 minutes twice a week in place of, I will start running. Check my phone every hour instead of every 5 minutes instead of, I will check my phone less. Call my mother once a week for 15 minutes rather than, I will have a better relationship with my mother. 4. Find a "partner in crime" Set goals that can be accomplished with a friend, your wife, or someone. To accomplish personal goals is harder when you are alone. 5. Recognize your effort when achieving your goals Accomplishing goals is never an easy task. Recognizing or rewarding yourself when you achieve a goal will motivate you to set goals for years to come. It will be gratifying to see your changes and success. People around you will also notice them. So, this Christmas, let’s make a change in our lives and our loved ones. Make the gift of yourself while preparing the crib to receive and give in a new way, in a more loving way, in a more passionate way, with an open heart to new ideas, new projects, new friends. ​ Let's start preparing our manger by sharing a small smile, a simple greeting, a short conversation, a moment to listen or help someone. Then let's evaluate our insides and set our goals. Sometimes we need so little and so do the people around us! This is how we can prepare for the New Year.

On this occasion, we will unveil some myths and rumors that have circulated around this vaccine that stimulates the production of antibodies to provide immunity against COVID-19 from a synthetic substitute that causes the disease. This type of vaccine is new to the public, but research and development of these synthetic substitutes have been done for decades. 1. COVID-19 vaccines are not effective or safe due to their rapid development. Myth. All COVID-19 vaccines that are available are safe, effective, and recommended. 2. COVID-19 vaccines cause variants of the virus. Myth. COVID-19 vaccines do not cause variants of the virus that causes COVID-19. New variants of a virus appear because the virus is constantly changing through a natural process of mutation. Even before the COVID-19 vaccines, there were already several variants of the virus. 3. COVID-19 vaccines contain microchips. Myth. COVID-19 vaccines do not contain microchips. Vaccines are developed to fight diseases and not to track people's movements. Vaccines stimulate the immune system to make antibodies. After getting vaccinated, people develop immunity to that disease. 4. Getting vaccinated against COVID-19 can make you magnetic. Myth. COVID-19 vaccines do not contain ingredients to produce an electromagnetic field. All COVID-19 vaccines are metal-free. 5. COVID-19 vaccines alter DNA. Myth. COVID-19 vaccines do not interact with or alter your DNA at any time. 6. Upon receiving the COVID-19 vaccine, the COVID-19 test will be positive. Myth. None of the licensed and recommended COVID-19 vaccines make you test positive for viral tests, which are used to see if you have a current infection. If your body develops an immune response to the vaccine, you may test positive for some antibody tests. Antibody tests indicate that you had a previous infection and that you may have some level of protection against the virus. 7. If I am pregnant, I cannot get vaccinated against COVID-19. Myth. If you are pregnant, you can get the COVID-19 vaccine. This vaccine is recommended for all people 12 years of age and older, including people who are breastfeeding, trying to get pregnant now or in the future. We, at Our Family Lifestyle, recommend talking to your healthcare provider about the COVID-19 vaccine. 8. I already had COVID-19; I don't need to get vaccinated. Myth. If you had COVID-19, you should get vaccinated because studies do not yet show how long you are protected against COVID-19 after recovering from the virus. Vaccination helps protect you even if you've already had COVID-19. Evidence indicates that people are better protected against COVID-19 by being fully vaccinated. 9. I am sick with COVID-19, I cannot get vaccinated. True. If you are sick, you should not get vaccinated. People with COVID-19 with or without symptoms should wait until they have recovered from their illness and have met the criteria to stop isolation before being vaccinated. This rule also applies to people who contract COVID-19 before receiving their second dose of vaccine. A person is fully vaccinated by meeting the recommended serial number for each vaccine. 10. I am fully vaccinated, I should no longer use the mask. True. However, certain conditions apply: • If you are in an area with a high number of COVID-19 cases, consider wearing a mask. • If you have a weak immune system, you should continue to take all the precautions recommended for unvaccinated people. Or if you are caring for a family member with a weak immune system, consider wearing a mask. • If you are fully vaccinated, to maximize protection against the Delta variant and to avoid the possibility of spreading it to others, wear a mask indoors in public. As of November 2021, it is not known how long the protection of the COVID-19 vaccine lasts. Recent studies show that protection against the virus can decrease over time. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) recommends that certain population groups receive a booster shot at least 6 months after completing their initial vaccination series. While the goal of this article is to convey usefully, verified, and up-to-date information about COVID-19, it should not replace a conversation with a healthcare professional or your GP. Before making any decisions, first, consult with your doctor. ​ Remember, before considering vaccine information on the Internet, verify that the information comes from a reliable source and is updated regularly. For further information on COVID-19 vaccines, visit the web pages of the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention or the World Health Organization.

Our World in Data reports as of October 2021 that 47.8% of the world population has received at least one dose of a COVID-19 vaccine. The available COVID-19 vaccines are currently authorized and recommended. They are safe and effective and reduce the risk of getting sick, including severe illness and death. Most people who get COVID-19 are not vaccinated. Getting vaccinated is the best way to slow the spread of COVID-19 and prevent infection with Delta or other variants. Studies show that vaccinated people are 8 times less likely to become infected and 25 times less likely to suffer hospitalization or death. People who have had the recommended number of series of vaccines are fully vaccinated after two weeks of the shot. For example, 2 weeks after the second dose in a 2-dose series, such as the Pfizer or Moderna vaccines, are fully vaccinated. If you do not meet those requirements, it means that you are not fully vaccinated. ​ The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) suggest that people, who have received two doses of the vaccines, should restart all the activities they stopped doing because of the pandemic. ​ What can you do if you are fully vaccinated? You can resume activities that you did prior to the pandemic. Wear a mask indoors in public places if you are in a high-risk area to reduce the risk of being infected with the Delta variant and possibly spreading it to others. CDC recommends universal indoor masking for all teachers, staff, students, and visitors to schools, regardless of vaccination status. If you have a weakened immune system, you should continue to take all precautions recommended for unvaccinated people. If a member of your household has a weakened immune system or is unvaccinated, you can wear a mask. If you travel by plane, bus, or train, you should wear a mask over your nose and mouth. If you plan to travel to another country, pay close attention to the situation at your destination before traveling. You should keep attention to COVID-19 symptoms, especially if you have been around someone who is sick. If you have symptoms, get tested, and stay home, and be away from others. The CDC recommends that if you’ve had close contact with someone who has COVID-19, you should get tested 3-5 days after your exposure, even if you don’t have symptoms. ”They also suggest“ wear a mask indoors in public for 14 days following exposure or until your test result is negative. You should isolate for 10 days if your test result is positive.” Follow the guidance of your workplace and your community. Follow any applicable federal, state, local, tribal, or territorial laws, rules, and regulations. According to the World Health Organization (WHO), globally, as of October 13th, 2021, there have been 4,859,277 deaths related to COVID-19. What can we do to change these numbers? Only if enough of us get vaccinated will this pandemic end. Protect yourself and those around you, how? WHO recommends: Get vaccinated as soon as it’s your turn and follow local guidance on vaccination. Keep a physical distance of at least 1 meter from others, even if they don’t appear to be sick. Avoid crowds and close contact. Wear a properly fitted mask when physical distancing is not possible and in poorly ventilated settings. Clean your hands frequently with an alcohol-based hand rub or soap and water. Cover your mouth and nose with a bent elbow or tissue when you cough or sneeze. Dispose of used tissues immediately and clean hands regularly. If you develop symptoms or test positive for COVID-19, self-isolate until you recover. COVID-19 vaccines have generated many myths and rumors. Accurate information about vaccines is essential. With so much information on the Internet, it is difficult to know which sources of information can be trusted. Before considering vaccine information, verify that the information comes from a reliable and up-to-date source.