Mistakes That Could Damage Your Marriage

To build a strong and healthy marriage, it is essential to invest time, effort and understanding. Certain words, phrases and actions have the potential to harm the relationship and lead to its deterioration.

Constant criticism, insults, lies, lack of communication and lack of support can generate resentment, pain and distance in the couple, even breaking the marriage bond.

In this post, we'll explore some of the most common ones you should avoid in your marriage.

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Let's think of our relationship with our couple as our relationship with a plant. For it to grow healthy and strong, we must feed it with good soil and add fertilizer, water it with the required frequency and offer a place with light so that its greenery stands out. What happens to a plant when it lacks all this care? It dies little by little until we no longer see a beautiful plant but a dry shovel.

And, if on the contrary, do we give it a lot of water or a lot of sun? It drowns, the roots rot. With too much sun, it burns.

Well, the success of a marriage requires a balance. Therefore, it can be affected by various factors such as financial stress, infidelity, lack of communication, addictions, constant criticism, among others. Overcoming these obstacles and achieving balance requires time and effort on the part of both spouses.

And since I always extol the importance of communication for human beings, I have to say that the quality of a marriage can change quickly depending on the words used when talking to the couple. It is important to prevent attitudes and avoid words that seem like small details but that damage your marriage, avoid certain phrases and be aware of the impact that these can have on the relationship. Words spoken in a moment of anger or frustration can cause regret and damage, -among other things, - trust in the relationship.

Phrases to avoid

• "I told you so" (condescending tone)

• "You always..." or "You never..." (generalizations)

• "I can't do this anymore" (threats of abandonment)

• "I hate you" (hurtful language)

Actions to avoid

• Lack of communication/emotional intimacy.

• Infidelity (physical or emotional)

• Financial stress/dishonesty

• Lack of trust/respect

• Sarcasm, eye rolling, insults

• Defensive attitude (making excuses, blaming)

• Blocking (refusing to communicate)

But how can we overcome this stage and strengthen our marriage?

Here I leave you some tips:

• Communication: It is important to have open and honest communication with your partner. Express your feelings, listen to their needs and reach agreements together.

• Respect: Respect your partner at all times, both in public and private. Avoid insults, destructive criticism, and lack of consideration.

• Support: Be present for your partner in difficult times, provide emotional support and let him/her know that you are there for him/her.

• Forgiveness and forgetting: Learn to forgive and forget. Holding grudges will only make the situation worse. Learn to leave the past behind and focus on the present and the future.

• Couples therapy: If you feel like you need extra help, don't hesitate to seek the help of a couples therapist. Sometimes, it is necessary to have a professional to overcome certain obstacles.
  

Remember, no relationship is perfect, and mistakes will be made. However, if these phrases, words and actions become a constant pattern, it can lead to the demise of the marriage and any relationship. By being aware of these potential obstacles, you and your partner will be able to work together to build a stronger, healthier relationship.