My Tips to Have a Happy Marriage
The engagement period is not enough to get to know well the person to whom you will live all of your life. Only the daily coexistence will provide little by little the unknown data that during the romance of courtship can never be obtained.
Marriage is a serious commitment with very deep responsibilities that may start in the kitchen cooking three meals a day, or when paying the monthly rent. Love changes over time. It can still be romantic, but it is not fanciful. It is realistic.
As life changes, so does love and people. Routinely, everyday activities can be dangerous for a relationship, especially for couples. So you need to get creative, to renew the aspects of what brought you two together. I have found that couples have a tendency to forget their first dates. Women often stop taking care of themselves, and men forget how lovely they were with their women. That should never happen. Although, there is no magic formula that fits all couples perfectly.
Each marriage must create very particular strategies. In this post, I am sharing my own experience happy marriage formula. You can refresh it, you can modify it, or just take whatever works best for you.
Get close to God. Marriage or when living as a couple represents the maximum love between two people. To me, it should be lived with a great sense of humility, joy, delicacy, fidelity, patience, enthusiasm, loyalty, trust ... Being close to God has been essential to nurture the love in my marriage.
He/She is always first. Give your couple at all times the right place. The couple is first and then the others.
Respect and communication. These two are crucial, otherwise the couple will be separate individuals thinking about different things and going in different directions. Being honest with each other is vital. Understand that everyone needs space to be alone and give it. People have hubbies, preferred food, favorite colors, ... respect the differences between you and him/her. Don't expect that your couple likes the same exact things you do, that is impossible and boring!
Details in piles. Not huge expenses of money, a simple "I love you"; a delicate gesture of affection; some flattering words; an unexpected kiss; a cup of coffee in the morning, ... Remember the anniversaries, or especial occasions. A text message or a call in the middle of the morning just to say hi, how's your day going?..., will draw a smile on the face of your couple. The result: home will be a peaceful place full of harmony, and happiness. It will be a "bright and cheerful home".
Give up. Although it is common to believe that you are always right, in marriage it is elementary to give your arm to twist, because you are not always right. Giving up in the name of love and harmony is heroic.
Be well presented. Take care of each other's appearance. Find time to go to the beauty salon, to the barbershop, to the spa to maintain the radiant aspect of the first days. Dress to impress him/her.
Spend some time alone. Go out for dinner, to the movies, to share a cup of coffee, ice cream, or a few drinks. Take a moment to talk. These moments foster the marriage relationship and are conducive to getting to know each other more.
With matrimony, comes the in-laws. Marriage is a complete package as you see.
Fore many couples, learning about the in-laws is a story. They became part of you when you became part of your partner. Communication, generosity and tolerance from both partners will maintain good relations among both families, but more importantly between the couple.
In every marriage, there are situations along the way. The interesting thing is to cope with them. Be smart, stubborn, firm, patient, and very creative. You will overcome all the setbacks and difficulties that come during your journey. Share joys and sorrows, celebrate triumphs, and learn from defeats. Always two as one.